Showing posts with label trans. Show all posts
Showing posts with label trans. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Eugene Delgaudio: Transphobic Bigot

I do not understand how bigoted some people can be. I simply cannot manage to wrap my mind around how people can refuse to see other people as human beings.

A January 24, 2010, article showcased the bigotry of a Loudoun county supervisor named Eugene A. Delgaudio (R-Sterling). The Washington Post's Sholnn Freeman writes:
At a Jan. 6 meeting, supervisors voted to expand Loudoun's nondiscrimination policy to prohibit bias on the basis of sexual orientation in hiring by the county. Delgaudio fought the change in the meeting, saying he was especially offended by language in the measure that sought protection for transgendered people. In the debate, he called the board's attempt to protect transgendered people "freaky" and "bizarre." In a subsequent newsletter to supporters, Delgaudio wrote that "if a man dressed as a woman wants a job, you have to treat 'it' the same as a normal person."
In response to criticism about his words, Delgaudio read "a revised statement with the word 'it' taken out. He continued: 'With apologies to real-life Tootsies' and 'to all their defenders who are calling me all sorts of names and . . . are saying I should apologize'" (Freeman).

I don't know where to begin. I am appalled by Delgaudio's statements. I am horrified by Delgaudio in general. This is a man has been directly quoted as writing that "forcing the [Scouts] to hire homosexuals is the same as being an accessory to the rape of hundreds of boys" ("Anti-Tax in Loudoun, Anti-Gay Everywhere"), regarding whether the Boy Scouts should be allowed to ban gay men from being troop leaders. This is a man who is so blinded by bigotry and hatred that he cannot see people as people. He does not appear to be capable of being reasoned with.

What kind of person calls other groups of people "it"? Honestly? I realize that "it" is just one word, but it is completely dehumanizing. "It" should be reserved for things, like chairs and rocks. And--putting aside Delgaudio's inability to understand what the term transgender means--what is so wrong about a person who does not dress in normatively gendered clothing? I fail to see why even a man dressed as a woman (who, incidentally, would not be protected under nondiscrimination policies protecting sexual orientation or gender identity) would not be deserving of being treated "the same as a normal person."

Now, I realize that by stating "a man dressed as a woman" Delgaudio actually was referring to a transwoman; he is simply too bigoted to understand that neither the sex one was determined at birth, nor the subsequent gender one was raised as, are indicative of some form of innate, unchanging sex/gender that one must be. Nevertheless, clothing is just that. Why should what a person wears have any bearing on whether that person should be treated with respect?

And as far as Delgaudio's views on transgender people (not to mention gay people) . . . he just makes me sick. Truly. I generally try to ignore people like him. It's generally not worth the time and energy to rant about transphobic, homophobic bigots who are hateful and can't be reasoned with. It just upsets me and doesn't affect him.

At the same time, sometimes enough is enough, and I can't just let this slide. At some point in time, one needs to take a stand against all of the hate that's out there. And I think that in this case, one of the worst parts is that Delgaudio doesn't seem to realize how hateful his statements are. He actually seems to believe that his views are reasonable--that it's acceptable to first dismiss the legitimacy of transgender people's identities and then treat them as less than human, that it's logical to equate being gay and being a child rapist. It simultaneously outrages me and tears at my heart that someone could actually believe poison like this.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

"It's the imperfections that make us whole."

Heroes
What can I learn from you
In your lifetime, in what you've been through
How'd you keep your head up and hold your pride
In an insane world how'd you keep on tryin'
One life can tell the tale
That if you make the effort, you can not fail
By your life you tell me it can be done
By your life's the courage to carry on

Heroes
Appear like a friend
To clear a path or light the flame
As time goes by you find you depend
On your heroes to show you the way

What can I learn from you
That I must do the thing I think I cannot do
That you do what's right by your heart and soul
It's the imperfections that make us whole
One life can tell the tale
And if you make the effort you cannot fail
By your life you tell me it can be done
By your life's the courage to carry on
-Ann Reed, "Heroes"

The inspiration for the name of this blog comes from Ann Reed's song "Heroes." It's a really powerful song, both in terms of lyrics and music.

I first heard "Heroes" at the Minnesota Trans Health and Wellness Conference last spring. It wasn't officially part of the program; I had slipped into the auditorium slightly before the ending ceremony was about to begin, and this song was playing on the iTunes of one of the conference's coordinators' laptops. Nevertheless, this song struck me as...just really fitting for the conference.

My heroes. Yes, my heroes include people who are famous. And my heroes include people who, though perhaps not famous to society as a whole, are well known within certain circles--people like Kate Bornstein, Riki Wilchins, and Leslie Feinberg, all noted transgender theorists/authors.

But more than that, my heroes are the everyday transfolk and genderqueer people and other gender nonconforming people who show immense courage and strength merely by being who they are in a such hostile world. "By your life you tell me it can be done."

I'm in college. And while my college is by no means perfect, it is in many ways a bubble that shields me from a lot of the ugliness that people face outside the protection of my campus. Even at my college--a liberal, queer-friendly, generally open-minded place--it is sometimes difficult to be myself. Even at my college, it is difficult, and scary, to come out to people as trans, to attempt to move through the world as neither man, nor woman. It is one thing to transcend gender intellectually and theoretically; it is quite another thing to do so in real life.

It is hard, sometimes harder than I can manage, to stick to my convictions and be who I am, expressing my gender as I wish to, even at my generally accepting, supportive, "live and let live" sort of college.

It is terrifying to think about life after I graduate, just a few short months away. People there, outside my college's bubble, won't have the general understanding of gender that many of the people here have--the knowledge of the sex/gender distinction, the acceptance that not everyone has to fall within the gender binary, the respect to generally let people be who they are, whoever that is.

People will view me as a woman, dismiss me as a woman. People will tell me that I'm going to hell, that I'm just confused, that I'm going through a phase, that I must be a man if I'm not a woman, that of course I'm a woman, that I'm a freak, that who I am and how I see myself doesn't matter. People will laugh at me, call me names, pretend that I don't exist. People will dismiss the legitimacy of my identity because I look too female, or because I haven't "picked a side' (i.e. woman or man), or because they just don't want to deal with any deviations from the assumptions they've made.

And I don't know how I'm going to deal with all of this. Sometimes, I don't know how I can. But I think about the song: "What can I learn from you / That I must do the thing I think I cannot do / That you do what's right by your heart and soul / It's the imperfections that make us whole." I can learn from the people I met at the conference, the people I read about and from online, the people I know. They somehow manage to live their lives in this incredibly transphobic world, and I respect them more than I can say. "I must do the thing I think I cannot do." I will dig deep within myself and find the courage and strength to live my life as myself. I know that being true to myself is what's right by my heart and soul.

"By your life you tell me it can be done"

All of the transgender, genderqueer, gender-neutral, bi-gender people I've met, all of the transfolk and genderqueers and other gender-nonconforming that I've read about--their very lives show me that it can be done. It is possible to not remain in the gender category that society has placed us in. It is possible to live outside the gender binary entirely.

"By your life you tell me it can be done"

My heroes show me the way.